I am was incredibly inspired by this Michael Hyatt podcast about doing and not trying and answers why it is time to stop trying.
He mentions an exercise that Tony Robbins does in his workshops where he asks a participant to pick up a chair, and the participant picks up the chair. Then Tony asks to “try and pick up the chair” and of course, someone picks up the chair. And then he says, “No, no, no. I said try to pick it up. You picked it up. Put it back down.” She kind of looks confused. She doesn’t know what to do, so she just stands there. He says, “Now you’re not picking it up. I asked you to try to pick it up.” She’s kind of confused. She’s looking around at the crowd. Everybody is kind of confused. She grabs the chair and picks it up, and he says, “You picked it up. I asked you to try to pick it up. Put it back down.” So she stares at it for a while, and he goes back through the same thing. “Now you’re not picking it up.” He makes a distinction that you either pick it up or you don’t pick it up. There’s no such thing as trying.
I am very guilty of this. In my work-life, a lot of times I can’t 100% control an outcome, it’s left down to a slew of other people to come through. So when colleagues ask for something I say “well I’ll try”. Really what I mean is, “I’m going to do my best but I can’t guarantee the results here”. Hyatt advocates that it’s better to not say “I’ll try”, commit where you need to and then if it doesn’t come through then do damage control if that indeed happens.
I’m on the fence about this as I hate to commit to something I don’t think I can deliver on so maybe here there’s a balance. I am definitely looking to not use the word “try” so much but at the same time, be mindful to of what I commit to delivering both at life, and at the office.
Are you guilty of saying “I’ll try” ?